To repair or strengthen a relationship, we need to change our thinking and negative associations.
For change to be enduring, we need it to take place in the neural circuitry of our brain.
Do we need couples therapy?
A wide variety of couples seek therapy for common to complex issues. It may be time for you and your partner to get started on couples therapy if:
- You have poor communication
- You’re struggling with finances
- You’re arguing more than normal
- You’re experiencing sexual dysfunction or frustration
- You’ve lost trust in your partner, possibly due to cheating
- You’ve recently experienced a major life change, such as loss of a job
- You’ve been keeping something from your partner and don’t know how to tell them
Couples therapy isn’t always about solving problems. Sometimes it’s about preventing them. For instance, if you’re in a serious relationship and considering marriage, couples therapy can be beneficial for helping each of you learn how to communicate better so you can experience a long and loving marriage.
How can couples therapy help?
There are many discoveries in the field of neuroscience that will benefit couples by gaining a new perspective on how to sustain your partnership.
No matter how well we know someone, there’s infinitely more to discover about them. Dr. Ceruto helps you both uncover new ways to start conversations by asking questions that go deeper and teach you to listen for nuances you never noticed before. You’ll be surprised how much you learn and how much closer it brings you intimately!
Through cognitive neuroscience, Dr. Ceruto helps you master the art of communication by sticking to facts and reason, and not to plan your responses ahead of time or react in the same old ways. This keeps you both from trying to “win” the conversation and treat each other like an opposing force, instead of a real teammate. So to start having successful communication, we train your brains to shift from negative communication traits over to more positive ones.
You will learn how to settle disagreements calmly and quickly while not compromising your own beliefs or opinions. Dr. Ceruto will teach both of you how to get into and stay engaged in a state of calm and quiet awareness that will help you both regulate your emotions. And for challenging conversations with your partner, emotion regulation is crucial in avoiding those tears down, knock out fights.
Healing from Pain or Infidelity
Unfortunately, in the struggle to navigate hurt feelings, we often see couples getting stuck around a set of grievances or perhaps one significant transgression that has never really been resolved. On the surface, it may seem that the relationship has “moved on,” but often that isn’t so. Because of this resentment or contempt, behaviors such as withholding or freezing out often develop. Dr. Ceruto teaches you many scientifically-proven alternatives to be indeed able to forgive and move forward productively, and in most cases, with a more profound connection.
The belief that sex somehow naturally goes away after moving in together, after marriage, after a baby, or after you get older, is not valid. Yes, sex changes, relationships change, bodies change, and energy changes. The sexual attraction isn’t static because you’re not the same people to one another in so many ways. At MindLAB Life Coaching, our program, helps couples reimagine what their sexual relationship can be–to discover one another anew, sexually, through a process that, in many ways, is not unlike getting to know one another as new partners.
Relationships are messy–in many ways, filled with frustrations and compromise. They can also be beautiful. So much of what our patients struggle with is the conflict between how they imagine their relationships should be, what they wished it would be, and the reality of what it. Dr. Ceruto helps couples approach the difficult task of refusing to settle for less than a great relationship while simultaneously working to recognize imperfections. Because both are vital, we help you develop emotional intelligence and arm you with a tool kit to get through even the toughest of times.
What clients can expect from couples therapy
- Guiding the couple through a win-win problem-solving process to resolution of each of the issues on which they have been stuck.
- Teaching essential skills so the couple can handle their subsequent differences collaboratively or on their own. There will be no need nor desire to either disengage from each other or fight.
- Teaching skills for keeping the emotional tone between them happy and loving. No more anger, depression, or anxiety. Much more sharing of affection and appreciation.
- Gaining insights into the childhood origins of their problematic habits and preventing further excessive emotional reactivity that leads to distance, arguing and isolation.
What is the most effective therapy for couples?
Utilizing the latest findings in Cognitive and Behavioral Neuroscience, MindLAB Life Coaching has developed a state-of-the-art program that serves as an alternative to traditional couples therapy which is antiquated and DOES NOT WORK.
This non-invasive treatment involves using your brain’s natural ability to change, neuroplasticity, its own neural connectivity, and its inherent ability to generate new, much healthier connections, called neurogenesis. This process has shown stellar results in changing your thought patterns and negative associations of your partner and relationship.
At MindLAB Life Coaching we use the latest and most innovative techniques to teach you how to regulate your brain’s neural pathways to a much healthier way of thinking, feeling, emoting, behaving, and perceiving. It’s like a workout for a brain, and the best part is that the changes we make are permanent and become your new default setting.